Big brother helps also. It’s a family project.

Pretty common thing at our house: a Horrible Hug.

https://picklebums.com/hug-your-kids-when-they-are-being-horrible/

Really, it’s more like me flopping (gently) on top, re-directing John with humor and mirroring his goofy faces.

Until he smiles.

Much better re-direct than anything in frustration.

I also have tickled him.

I make John cuddle with me, in the hope of building long-term neural pathways for his future relationships.

I think he is kinda liking it.

And when he doesn’t like it, he hears this very familiar Mom question:  “Hard way or easy way?”

Thanks, Sheryl Sitts, Journey of Possibilities, for this link (click for the full story of all benefits):

“When a hug lasts 20 seconds, there is a therapeutic effect on the body and mind. The reason is that a sincere embrace produces a hormone called “oxytocin”, also known as the love hormone. This substance has many benefits in our physical and mental health, helps us, among other things, to relax, to feel safe and calm our fears and anxiety.” 

We help our children build happy neural pathways via happy and consistent experiences.

Maybe this will help in your world,

Peace be with us,

Gayle