John made a string of decisions that broke Mom’s heart.
The natural consequences of these decisions conjured up Uncertainty of the future.
From Uncertainty, Fear set in.
From Fear to Anger. (Mom got mad on the inside and the outside.)
Then Remorse set in, and we (son & mom) talked about how we were both going to make better choices next time.
By the time dear Rosemary Slade, OTR, arrived, I was still neck-high in Remorse and Sadness.
By the time we had transferred wisdom from Rosie to Gayle, Peace and Joy were trickling back in.
Key points to share with you (in case it helps you):
- If he doesn’t want to yet, he won’t. (Mom, remember intrinsic motivation?)
- If it weren’t this thing, it would be that thing. There will always be something else.
- He is going to go through childhood. So let him.
- Hold your boundaries, Mom. Hold your ground. With Peace.
(Mom, you are moving too fast through today!)
Maybe this can help you with your daily path toward joy.
Peace be with us,
Gayle
